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Advice for a male friend who's a super gentleman - Tanya - 10-03-2024
May 14th, 2010
I have a friend from high school who's 22 and he's super afraid to approach girls. He said that he feels like a huge creep whenever he thinks about approaching them and he also said that when he sees girls he's attracted to, it often doesn't even occur to him to talk to them and the idea of dating them feels super weird. He said that he usually just sits there and imagines what it would be like to be them. He has said many times that he is extremely worried about being creepy and the idea of a girl finding him creepy causes him a lot of distress. I've told him that he is creepy, but I also know a lot more things about him then some random girl on a date would know.
I've set him up on dates with female friends in the past and none of them have ever worked out. They've said that the reason for it is they just weren't interested in continuing to date him because they simply weren't interested. He might be boring because he's too reserved and too worried about judgement if he talks about his interests. Honestly he has a lot of interests that he shouldn't share on dates because it would make him extremely creepy but there are still plenty of other things that he could talk about
It feels like he has a super block with dating because he's incredibly repressed and excessively worried that showing the slightest interest in a girl he isn't already set up with will be taken as being extremely creepy. Staring at girls when they aren't looking is still super creepy and it's not like they don't notice. He practically had a crisis when I told him that.